User Friendly Messages

"I never realized all the ways my negative beliefs held me back. Now when I hear those old self-critical comments, I treat them as spam. Today I have much more effective messages for myself. I've developed a great spam filter!"

Some people have been well-trained to be highly self-critical. Parents and other important people in their lives may have said some of the following:

"You'll never amount to anything. You won't ever have any friends. If you'd just study harder like your brother/sister, you wouldn't be coming home with B's."

It doesn't take too many of these angry, hurtful statements to do serious damage. Fortunately, there are effective tools to identify these messages and replace them with supportive, reality based messages. Once people develop the skills to upgrade their internal software, they feel more confident and motivated to tackle challenges and succeed.