Set Any Goals Lately?

It is common knowledge that individuals and couples who set goals are much more likely to accomplish them. Telling someone about your goals is not only more motivating but also increases your accountability and provides support.

Here are some ideas for successful goal achievement:

• Set SPECIFIC goals. List triggers for my anxiety and learn effective tools to decrease it.
• Make them MEASUREABLE. Rate my level of anxiety using a 1-10 scale when I am triggered and after applying the tools.
• Create ACHIEVABLE goals. Ask myself whether I am willing to find the resources and commit the time to reach these goals.
• Identify the REWARDS. Reducing my anxiety will help me relax and enjoy my life.
• Be sure they are TIME-BASED. Practicing these tools 3 times a week for the next month will help me evaluate their effectiveness.

Losing Confidence in Marriage?

In an article in the Wall Street Journal on July 3, 2009, Kay Hymowitz presents some
interesting ideas: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124658294270189935.html.

In the midst of revelations of affairs among public figures, Ms. Hymowitz points out
that marital breakup is not rampant across the land. While having children affects people
who expect to maintain a close marital bond, most couples stay together and provide for their family. As a therapist, I find that those who take time for themselves away from their children

continue to strenthen their relationship.

One might expect that husbands and wives would divorce after the children are "launched."
In reality, empty-nesters find marriage more satisfying. Maybe it's the pride of having
accomplished raising a family as well as focusing once again on just the two of them.