Re-Connecting After an Affair

"My wife/husband/partner just found out about my affair. I don't want to lose this relationship. What can I do?"

• Recognize that re-building trust takes a long time.
• Be patient.
• Be pro-active in reading books about affairs and start the repair process.
• Start couples therapy to understand what was not working in the relationship.
• Learn and practice new tools to communicate and relate effectively.
• Schedule regular couple time together, such as a daily walk, weekly lunch, or playing tennis.
• Commit to re-creating a better relationship.