Tips for Influencing Your Partner
Couples often come in with fantastic goals...for their partner. I usually respond with, "You know, I have had great goals for my husband throughout our marriage and have failed miserably at getting him to change...unless he wants to. Besides, do I REALLY want to be responsible for him, too?!" I then let them in on a little secret. Influence is much more effective.
State Senator Joe Simitian recently presented some tips for successful advocacy to the Santa Clara County Library Forum which I think apply quite well to successful couple relationships. The #1 tip is to develop a relationship.
So, consider this. When you nag, blow up in anger, go behind your partner's back, "forget" to take care of the things you agreed to do, is that going to be an effective way to nurture your relationship? Think about it and email me at ann@annlstevenson.com describing the ways you successfully influence your partner to support your requests.
State Senator Joe Simitian recently presented some tips for successful advocacy to the Santa Clara County Library Forum which I think apply quite well to successful couple relationships. The #1 tip is to develop a relationship.
So, consider this. When you nag, blow up in anger, go behind your partner's back, "forget" to take care of the things you agreed to do, is that going to be an effective way to nurture your relationship? Think about it and email me at ann@annlstevenson.com describing the ways you successfully influence your partner to support your requests.
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